How are we in a new month already? Pop quiz: Is April faster than Usain Bolt?
I’ve been seeing monthly goals posts for a while elsewhere in the blogosphere, and I thought that I’d like to give it a try.
Being a student, a twentysomething, and reigning Queen of the Quarter Life Crisis (my title is Your Lowness, thanks) has left me feeling pretty uncertain and directionless for a little over a year now. Goals would be very much appreciated.
So here are my goals for this month. I’ll try not to get carried away but that comes with a 0% guarantee.
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Goal: write a reflective prayer after I learn something new about God
Goal: ask God for direction first
I kind of struggled with what to say with this. I don’t really know if I want to frame my faith in terms of a goal right now, since I mostly just want to learn more. When I think about it, though, I have started this new thing where I take a few minutes and write a little prayer (pray-write?) about what I learned or heard when I watch a sermon, so maybe my goal will be to do that more. I find that a lot of things tend to come out when I do that, like some misconception, struggle, or insecurity I’ve been dealing with without even knowing I had it.
I would also like to consult with God more. I’m still in that mode where I tend to fire off and do things on my own (and then pray for a way out when things go left), even though the wise thing to do is ask God what He thinks before I start pulling what I think are power moves. Slow down to go fast, amirite?
Goal: go on one date.
I could write a whole post on this but I won’t. Not today, anyway. The Coles notes version of my dating life is that I don’t have one. Not since I took on way too much last semester and had to stop dating to get ish done. Now I’m in this weird place where I want to date but don’t feel like it. My life feels a lot less stressful when I’m not dating. I don’t have the extra work of trying to manage my emotions, avoiding getting played, and dealing with rejection (or having to do the rejecting). I don’t get little twinges of nervousness when my phone buzzes.
But I also realize that finding someone special can add an amazing dimension to life, so this month, my goal is to put on my big girl panties and suck it up.
Buttttttt….since I find dating exhausting (shout out to all my introverts awkwardly checking their phones in the back) and I’m just getting back into the swing of things, I’m not setting any lofty dating goals. Hopefully my one date will be a quality date, but if I’m honest, the only expectation I have right now is a free coffee. #jaded
School & Career
Goal: Keep a regular schedule at least 4 days a week
School and work is one of the areas where I feel the most directionless at the moment so coming up with a goal is hard for me. That being said, I’m grateful to have a lot of flexibility in that I can set my own hours. I’ve been struggling with keeping a regular schedule, though. Why work during the day when I can watch Netflix and then work at 2 am? I’m pretty sure my missing logic can give Where’s Waldo a run for his money.
I feel like this is such a basic goal, but I learned terrible habits in undergrad and got away with them. I can’t really get away with these habits now, so I need to break them. It doesn’t help that being organized doesn’t come easily to me at all, but we all have to start somewhere, right?
Goal: post once a week
I’m still trying to figure out where I want to take my blog, but I do know that I want it to grow. I’ve been reading The Slight Edge and it’s being drilled over and over into me how important consistency is when it comes to being successful. And when it comes to blogging, I think consistency might be the one piece of advice I hear from bloggers over and over again when they’re doling out advice on how to grow your blog.
Goal: start a new category for money-related posts
About two and a half years ago, I went to the bank and didn’t have enough money to get something I needed for work. To add insult to injury, the teller was really handsome. How could I flirt with a man who knew exactly how little money I had? I may have been cute, but being broke wasn’t. Oops.
I also had a job where I needed to travel to another city, and I realized that if I wasn’t careful with my money, I would end up in a situation where I couldn’t afford the travel, and therefore, the job. I couldn’t allow that, and it pushed me to start being really careful with how I spent.
Since then, I’ve been a bit more ruthless (but not perfect) about how I spend and save my money. The thing that I’ve come to love about managing money is that when it’s managed well, it’s an incredibly powerful thing. It’s been magical to get hit with unexpected expenses and not freak out, and I want to learn so much more. I’m no expert, but I want to talk about money and share what I’ve been learning.
This week, I had an interesting conversation with Yaa Yaa over at Scribbles and Tostitos about the importance of talking about money. It made me think: wouldn’t it be cool if we could have helpful money conversations on a semi-regular basis? Even seemingly little things, like affording new sandals for the summer, are not so little. They impact our quality of life, and I don’t play games about that. I don’t want to be miserable!
Goal: invite a friend to one event
I’m pretty introverted and have workaholic tendencies, which means that my social life can flat out pack its bags, hand me divorce papers, and sue me for alimony and I won’t notice. #callthebailiff
It’s the first week of May and I feel like I’ve had enough social interaction to last me the rest of the month, but I need to keep trying because one of my goals for the rest of my twenties is to have close friendships. I can’t maintain those if I’m never around or never make any effort, so I’ll find a day to go out with a friend. I’ll even put on some decent clothes so I can look more like a human and less like a muppet.
None of my goals are huge or complicated, which is exactly why I love the idea of doing monthly goals. There’s nothing like smaller, achievable things to give me a bit of momentum to keep going. I think we get off track as well as stay on track by a matter of degrees, so it’s important for me to establish little patterns that keep me headed in the right direction.
Question: What are your May goals?
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