I picked up Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans because I want to know how to find a career I love. Here’s my review.
I‘ve celebrated quite a few birthdays here on Driftyness. There was my 24th, which was about trying to value the slow process of building; and my 25th, which focused on how I wanted the last half of my 20s to be. And with my 26th birthday around the corner, I’m starting to think about focus.
I’ve spent time sketching out the big picture of what I want my life to be like, but now it feels time to drill down and start filling out the smaller details. It’s time to focus on building.
A quick review of my life tells me that life hasn’t gone the way I intended (I thought I’d be a young, sexy doctor by now) and I’ve learned to be more flexible with my plans. Instead of a bunch of concrete milestones, what I want for myself at 26 is to have a sense of direction.
One of the areas in my life that needs direction the most is my career. I’ve changed my career plans, done things to please others, worked for the money, and took on jobs because they seemed like something I ought to be doing even though I didn’t know how they would bring me closer to what I wanted. Now that I’m getting close to graduation, I don’t want to keep doing that.
Unfortunately, I don’t know what exactly I’d do instead.
I started reading Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans to help me come up with answers. Here’s what I’ve learned so far.
Kaje Marie is a former social worker turned blogger who writes about her quest for freedom and finding her God-given purpose at UnKajed Thoughts.
Back in the summer, I had a casual conversation with Kaje in the comments section of my post, Active Dreaming and the Art of Getting Ish Done. In her comment, she described a view of success that I’d been quietly cultivating but had never heard anyone else say publicly:
“Success…once upon a time I viewed success as the big house out in the suburbs, climbing to the top in my career, and a six figure income. Today, success to me is living a life of freedom, joy, and impact, and constantly being in pursuit of being a better me. So it’s a transition away from the material, the tangible and performance based kind of success.”
Wanting to delve deeper, I interviewed Kaje about what it’s like to chase an unconventional type of success in a culture that values the material.
There is something that drives and motivates each of us in life. We may know what lies underneath our pull toward a purpose–one that’s designed specifically for us. Or we may just make the conscious decision to chase after the pull on our lives; knowing that it will lead us to the very things we want and need the most. Fulfillment.
I was curious about this idea when I first read about it on millenial wisdom blog Let’s Build Futures. LBF put a name to this feeling I’d been having of being drawn towards something else in life, even though my life was going fine. How could it be possible to feel like something’s off even when there’s nothing wrong? LBF called that feeling the Pull and describes it as our calling. Interested in talking more about this idea, LBF and I agreed to chat about our Pull and the things we’re doing to chase it.
If you saw the comment thread on my May Goals post, you would know that I’m getting a master’s in higher education. Plot twist: I’m not a teacher.
Here’s what I think about my (almost) year in grad school so far.
This is part two of my post on grad school. Kelli, the talented writer over at Unkajed Thoughts had some questions about what my experience in grad school has been like, so I thought that deserved a post of its own. You can read part one here.Read More
The inspiration for this post came from a conversation I had with Ali of As Told By Ali, when I got all excited about her post about wanting to start grad school. You can read her post here.
I speak often about being a grad student because it’s an experience that’s influencing my whole life. My future, because I’m grateful to be in grad school after being underemployed. My finances, because I’m hella broke. My time, because it takes up so much of it. And my identity, because being in grad school is like a job and there are all these social/cultural aspects to it that are shaping who I am. I won’t come out the same as I went in, which sounds tragic, but is actually A-OK with me.
Even though I talk about being a grad student fairly often, I realize I haven’t talked about how I actually got to grad school. I’m hoping that it’ll help someone else, and if it doesn’t…well, at least there’s a post this week.
This is a two-part post. Kelli from Unkajed Thoughts had some questions about what my experience in grad school has been like, so I thought that deserved a post of its own. You can read part two here.Read More