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Success Has No Finish Line: Kaje Marie on Seeking Freedom and Finding Meaning in Life

Portrait photo of Kaje Marie

K ncKaje Marie is a former social worker turned blogger who writes about her quest for freedom and finding her God-given purpose at UnKajed Thoughts.

Back in the summer, I had a casual conversation with Kaje in the comments section of my post, Active Dreaming and the Art of Getting Ish Done. In her comment, she described a view of success that I’d been quietly cultivating but had never heard anyone else say publicly:

“Success…once upon a time I viewed success as the big house out in the suburbs, climbing to the top in my career, and a six figure income. Today, success to me is living a life of freedom, joy, and impact, and constantly being in pursuit of being a better me. So it’s a transition away from the material, the tangible and performance based kind of success.”

Wanting to delve deeper, I interviewed Kaje about what it’s like to chase an unconventional type of success in a culture that values the material.

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To read more of Kaje’s philosophy on freedom, read her companion post, Success Has No Finish Line on her blog UnKajed Thoughts. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram (@unkajedthoughts or @kaje_marie).  Read More

Accidental Academic: My Experience In Grad School

black woman posing for graduation photo

IIf you saw the comment thread on my May Goals post, you would know that I’m getting a master’s in higher education. Plot twist: I’m not a teacher.

Here’s what I think about my (almost) year in grad school so far.

This is part two of my post on grad school. Kelli, the talented writer over at Unkajed Thoughts had some questions about what my experience in grad school has been like, so I thought that deserved a post of its own. You can read part one here. Read More

Introvert Problems: Being Single Is Way Too Easy For Me

OOne of my goals for May was to go on one date. This isn’t a particularly ambitious goal, and online dating gives me access to so many potential dates. I’ve got (hypothetical) options! So why am I three weeks into May, dateless, and only half-jokingly thinking that I’m going to be single for the rest of my life?

I dropped my dating life when I found myself with too much on my plate back in March.  It’s been about a month and a half since then and I haven’t really done anything to get back to dating.

Sometimes I think I should really get going because I don’t want to find myself in a mad dash to find a man when I start getting close to 30. I’ve heard of that happening to people, and it’s possible that it could happen to me too. But on the other hand, I’m pretty comfortable just not dating at all.

Being single is just easy for me. I’m amazed by people who seamlessly transition from singledom to being in a relationship because I’m finding it to be an absolute struggle.

Can you relate?

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It’s May Already!? My Goals for May

Bouquets of tulips and other spring flowers on the back of a bike

HHow are we in a new month already? Pop quiz: Is April faster than Usain Bolt?

Hint: yes.

I’ve been seeing monthly goals posts for a while elsewhere in the blogosphere, and I thought that I’d like to give it a try.

Being a student, a twentysomething, and reigning Queen of the Quarter Life Crisis (my title is Your Lowness, thanks) has left me feeling pretty uncertain and directionless for a little over a year now. Goals would be very much appreciated.

So here are my goals for this month. I’ll try not to get carried away but that comes with a 0% guarantee.

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